Success is not final, Failure is not fatal: only thing that counts and is forever is your courage to continue.
When you do something, you have an intention of achieving, completing or changing a thing. The Real-Life form of those expectations are called Success. And when things opposite or unexpected happens, that’s a fail and it becomes what we call — A Failure!
Dreams strengthens you and Fear weakens you. When you have strength to do things, you’ll be more hard and smart working. But when you’re afraid, that means you’ll be afraid to move closer to success too.
The more hard working you are, the more chances of success getting hit to you and the more afraid you are, the more chances of you failing again and again.
So, you’ll live just like an ordinary person if both dreams and fear hit you on the same time. You won’t be having any success nor failure. You seriously don’t want a life like that, right? Well, I don’t!
Why Failure is necessary for success?
The sweetest victory is the one that’s most difficult. The one that requires you to reach down deep inside, to fight with everything you’ve got, to be willing to leave everything out there on the battlefield—without knowing, until that do-or-die moment, if your heroic effort will be enough.
Society doesn’t reward defeat, and you won’t find many failures documented in history books. The exceptions are those failures that become stepping stones to later success.
Such is the case with Thomas Edison, whose most memorable invention was the light bulb, which purportedly took him 1,000 tries before he developed a successful prototype. “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” a reporter asked. “I didn’t fail 1,000 times,” Edison responded. “The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
Unlike Edison, many of us avoid the prospect of failure. In fact, we’re so focused on not failing that we don’t aim for success, settling instead for a life of mediocrity. When we do make missteps, we gloss over them, selectively editing out the miscalculations or mistakes in our life’s résumé.
“Failure is not an option”, NASA flight controller Jerry C. Bostick reportedly stated during the mission to bring the damaged Apollo 13 back to Earth, and that phrase has been etched into the collective memory ever since.
When we take a closer look at the great thinkers throughout history, a willingness to take on failure isn’t a new or extraordinary thought at all. From the likes of Augustine, Darwin and Freud to the business mavericks and sports legends of today, failure is as powerful a tool as any in reaching great success.
“Failure and defeat are life’s greatest teachers [but] sadly, most people, and particularly conservative corporate cultures, don’t want to go there,”
The Power of Taking Risks, Making Mistakes and Thinking Big. “Instead they choose to play it safe, to fly below the radar, repeating the same safe choices over and over again. They operate under the belief that if they make no waves, they attract no attention; no one will yell at them for failing because they generally never attempt anything great at which they could possibly fail (or succeed).”
However, in today’s post-recession economy, some employers are no longer shying away from failure—they’re embracing it. According to a recent article in BusinessWeek, many companies are deliberately seeking out those with track records reflecting both failure and success, believing that those who have been in the trenches, survived battle and come out on the other side have irreplaceable experience and perseverance. They’re veterans of failure.
The prevailing school of thought in progressive companies—such as Intuit, General Electric, Corning and Virgin Atlantic—is that great success depends on great risk, and failure is simply a common byproduct. Executives of such organizations don’t mourn their mistakes but instead parlay them into future gains.
How to create a mindset for success?
1. Create A Vision
Perhaps this quote by Tony Gaskins sounds absurd to you. You may be wondering why any reasonable person would squash their own dreams and desires in order to help others achieve theirs.
The sad fact is that many of us are sacrificing our greatness on a daily basis.
We may be trapped in a job we dislike or eking out a meager existence at the expense of living with passion.
Stop and think for a minute about what you really want out of life. Do you know what that is? If you don’t, then it’s highly unlikely that you will ever attract it.
So the first step in developing a Success Mindset is figuring out what you really want. If you have ever imagined “what if”, then now is the time to dive deeper instead of pushing it to one side.
2. Be clear about what you want
Create a list of goals, things you want to have, the people you want to surround yourself with and the dreams you want to realize.
It can be absolutely anything; a dream home, a successful business, your perfect soulmate, a wonderful family life or a combination of many different things. The key thing is that you want them.
One fun way to start this process is to create a vision board.
Don’t be afraid to dream big, now is not the time to be “realistic”.
Your dreams may seem larger than your current life but the bigger you dream, the more excited and inspired you’ll become, and the more open to new ideas and opportunities.
When you have a big vision that excites you, a strange thing happens. You become more committed to your goal, you’ll work harder towards achieving it and you’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen.
By creating a clear mental image of what you want, your mind will also help you find a way to make it a reality. As if by magic, things, people, events and other marvellous “coincidences” will start moving in your direction.
3. Cultivate A Positive Attitude
Having a success mindset means adopting a positive attitude towards everything including challenges. When things go wrong you’ll respond calmly and confidently instead of panicking or being a victim.
This may not be easy to start with especially if you are in the habit of complaining or are surrounded by negative circumstances and people.
Take one day at a time and start monitoring your thoughts.
How are you feeling, what are you thinking, could you have reacted differently in that situation?
Meditation is one powerful way to slow down an overactive mind and gain control over your thoughts.
As you become more conscious of what is going on inside you, you will start to train your mind to entertain happier, more positive and empowering thoughts. You will begin to radiate a positive energy that others will pick up.
Negative thoughts will also have less hold over you.
But if you do have a negative thought, don’t beat up on yourself. Just acknowledge it, let it go and shift your attention to your goals. Don’t allow anything to get you down.
4. Seek Out Inspiring People
There is nothing worse than being surrounded by harsh critics and naysayers.
Especially when you are building a successful business or coming back from a setback or failure.
This is the time when you most need support and encouragement.
But you might find that the people closest to you just don’t understand. They may offer well-intentioned but negative advice that sows doubt, breeds fear and crushes hope.
Make a point of expanding your network and seek out positive, proactive people who inspire you. If you want to create a successful business, mix with like-minded entrepreneurs.
If someone tells you that you can’t do something, don’t pay attention. Just remind yourself that you can achieve anything you set your mind to and keep going. Focus on your goals every day to keep yourself motivated and inspired.
Don’t take disappointments and setbacks to heart. View them as an opportunity to grow, improve, learn and help you become a stronger person.
By adopting a positive success mindset, you will overcome any challenges that you may come across and you will ultimately get what you want, because you won’t quit. In reality, there is nothing and no one that can stop you – only yourself and your own thoughts.
5. Create A Success Mindset With A Mentor
A mentor can be a very valuable asset when it comes to creating a mindset for success in your personal and professional life. Remember, your best thinking has got you here, but it may not be enough to get you there.
For many years, I tried to go it alone. Even though I knew the importance of having a success mindset, I felt deep down that there was something standing between me and the next level of achievement.
Affirmations, visualization and meditation all helped but something was still missing.
I believe that cultivating a success mindset is extremely important if you want to live your life with passion and purpose. With practice and persistence, you too can create a mindset for success in your life.